Rated M for Mature
“I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you’re into leather.”
Margaret Cho
One of the things I get most often as people get to know me is “Wait, you’re into that??”. ‘That’ would be the wonderful world of BDSM. Yes, don’t let this sweet visage fool you. In my spare time, I am deeply involved in the world of collars, leather, and of course, whips.
Now, before you run away, no this is not a sexual fetish for me. Yes, you heard me right. I repeat, THIS IS NOT A SEXUAL FETISH FOR ME. I know most people think of sex and BDSM in the same space, but for some, it has nothing to do with sex. I, for example, use BDSM for therapy. The following quote is taken from the article “BDSM as Harm Reduction” found on psychologytoday.com written by Michael Aaron, Ph.D:
“However, some did indicate that BDSM served as a transition to more evolved coping methods. In this case, BDSM would both be therapeutic (helping to deal with, manage or overcome deeper emotional disturbances), as well as serve in a harm reduction capacity by providing safer and more connective ways of dealing with those same difficulties.”
Dr. Aaron, in this quote, is discussing a study done to see whether or not BDSM helped more than other non-self harm methods. It warms my heart to see that people in the field of psychology are beginning to warm up to these methods.
So what do I do? Well, that’s easy. My day-to-day consists mainly of doing the chores set out for me by my Sir. We have our routines that we follow to help us both maintain our appropriate headspaces. Sometimes (most of the time really), I am a submissive/slave. To me, this is normality. I kneel for my Sir and he locks my collar on, and I go on about my business. Some days, I’m a pet. Yes, complete with ears and tail. Other days, I myself may be the huntress or Domme. I don’t top my Sir, of course. That’s not our dynamic. I am also dating my Sir. There are times when the collar comes off and we need to adult.
How do I use it? I primarily stick to impact play. Spanking, canes, floggers, whips, riding crops, paddles, I could go on. I cannot deal with a certain level of emotional pain. I require physical pain in order to cope. I used to self-harm when I was in high school, but it still never felt right. I didn’t know what else to do. When I was 19, I discovered the wonderful world of BDSM. I found where I belonged, and I found what I had been looking for. I guess what I’m trying to get at here is this: you don’t have to stick to what society views as “normal” in order to deal with your everyday life. Try something different. And who knows? You may find that you like it!
Now, before I go, I have one more thing to say on this. Like the rating says, THIS IS FOR THE MATURE ONLY. THIS IS NOT FOR KIDS. By “kids”, I mean those under the age of 18.
Stay true to yourselves, and stay wicked!